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Yesterday morning I received a phone call…
A phone call from my friend’s husband…
My friend’s husband said…
“We just got the results… she has breast cancer”…
I felt sick…
I said what I hoped were all the right words, from somewhere deep in my broken heart…
“We are here for you, don’t think we have enough on our own plate that we don’t have any room left for our mates… we are here for you”…
I said goodbye to my friend’s husband…
I recounted the conversation for my husband…
We stared at each other and said “Fug it” both at the same time…
Then there was nothing…
We just stared at each other…
We knew where they were at…
We knew what that place felt like…
Tasted like…
Smelled like…
We knew the sound of the internal screaming that no neighbour would ever likely hear…
Late yesterday afternoon I received a fund raising email from the Breast Cancer Network of Australia…
I stared at these words…
“In the next 24 hours, 42 people will hear four terrifying words – ‘You have breast cancer’.”
Forty two people who are forty two friends to one person like me have heard those four terrifying words in a twenty four hour period…
Too many numbers in too many hours changing too many lives…
And these are just the statistics for breast cancer diagnosis…
Too many cancers…
Too many statistics…
Too many phone calls that need to be made…
When will it end…
When will it end…
When will it end…
Damn! (Hugs)
Yep, damn is one of the four letter words I used. Thanks for the hugs. Xx
I was just told this by a friend today. Life is so cruel… x
Life can be very cruel and thank god there are so many caring souls like you to help balance out the weight of the blows. Much love. Xx
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Much love my dear friend. Xx
I have no words, just hugs. xx
Hugs are GREAT! 🙂 Xx
Cancer sucks. I found out today that my Dad’s cancer prognosis is not good at all. With little detail to go on as yet we just need to hold onto hope that something can still be done. The battle so far has been cruel and brutal for him, a story echoed by so many of those other thousands of Australians battling some kind of cancer right now. Cancer, in any form, truly sucks. I’m so sorry for your friend and her family x
My heart aches for you, your Dad and your family Kirsty. I shared my post on FB with this status/heading – “HEY CANCER! Yes you ya mongrel! Why don’t you go eat a big fat toxic turd and cark it!!!” Bout sums up how I loathe the beast. 😉 Love and hugs for you Kirsty xo
Not good to hear that. I can’t imagine how gut wrenching that news would be. But thank you for sharing, you’ve reminded me of the importance of self examination! Xx
Self examination and regular mammograms are really important for early detection Shannon. Thanks for stopping by 🙂
Cancer is so mean! I’m so sorry to hear. I often wonder why awful criminals don’t get it instead of all the good people it does. Wishing a successful fight xx
Cancer surely is mean. Too many beautiful people are hearing those four terrifying words. Thanks so much for stopping by Jo. 🙂 Xx
I have no doubt you must feel it like a kick in the guts every time you hear someone else has heard those words 🙁 I know I feel the same every time I hear someone’s had a miscarriage – you know exactly the flood of emotions and rollercoaster they’re about to go on
… and the thought of them having to experiencing one ounce of it is just so cruel. Wish I had a magic wand to share. Thanks for stopping by lovely Kelly 🙂 Xx
I feel sick when I hear those words because I can still remember how it felt when I heard them. I’m so sad to hear your news. I wish there was something I could say or do to make it better but I can’t. So I’m sending you hugs and good vibes instead.
Thanks Sammie. I just feel for them so much. We made it through so they will too. Keeping everything crossed and hope in my heart. Thanks for stopping by 🙂 Xx
Hi Sandra.
First time visitor here.
It annoys me no end that in this day and age when so much money is poured into new gadgets and technology that we cannot find a cure for this horrible disease. Instead, money is taken away from medical research and health facilities.
I really hope your friend is able to beat this. x
Oh if only 90% of what is spent on New Years Eve fire works in this country was channeled into research and our health system annaually what a difference this alone could make to so many.
Thanks for stopping by Gael. 🙂 Xx
OMG hun – I am so so sorry for your friend and for you to be living through this again through her. Sending so much love and prayers to you both my friend.. so much love xx
Sonia, I wish they never had to hear those words ever let alone experience any of the ride. Thanks so much for stopping by gorgeous one. 🙂 Xx
Thinking of you Sandra and your friend. Such a difficult time. Those statistics are alarming!
Hi there Shauna!
By 2020 it is estimated that 47 women a day will be diagnosed with breast cancer. I wish and hope the day is soon a cure is found for all cancers. Thanks for stopping by Shauna 🙂 Xx
Oh Sandra, my heart breaks for your friend… and for all the people that will hear these words in the future. I’m with you: WHEN will it end? WHY can’t we be closer to a cure than we currently are? Some things in life are just not fair, no matter which way you look at them. And cancer is most definitely one of them. Love and light to you and your friend. x
You are such a sweetie Sonia. Thanks so much for stopping by. Xx 🙂
God life is cruel. I’m so sorry for you all and I hope your friends beats it. I never know the right thing to say. The stats are way too high for all cancers. Jx
Sometimes words just seem so inadequate don’t they. I just went with “Well that freakin sucks, I don’t know what to say but please know that I am here for you.” Thanks for stopping by Jess. 🙂 Xx