Welcome back to Sunday Suckables and Silver Linings.
Just to refresh your memory each Sunday I’ll share one “Suckable” statement and one “Grateful” statement and then write five sentences about each one.
Studies show that when we pick one person or thing to be grateful for every day and write five specific sentences about it we become more elated, excited and improve our emotional health as opposed to remaining more tired, lethargic and sad if we only generalise about being grateful.
Need more info? Read what I wrote about it here and the inspiration behind it.
In life there is always duality – happiness and sadness, laughter and tears, positive and negative. Without one the other cannot be fully appreciated. From suffering comes either bitterness to constrict the soul, or love and compassion to bring about its expansion toward serenity.
Hence my inclusion of the “Suckable” statement. Because… duality and all that jazz!
Oh, and I am so over the buzz word grateful that I will be using the statement “I am appreciative for” instead of “I am grateful for”.
Ready to go?
I’d love for you to join in via the comment section below or over on your own blog! Let me know in the comments and I’ll come visit.
A little background for today’s suckable – My inner critic is called Mr Les Muppet and is a queer looking mutant character who sits on one of those old club lounges inside my head with an old fashioned 70’s coffee table in front him housing half eaten packets of chips and empty cans of coke, overflowing ashtrays, a TV remote and scattered shaggy TV Week magazines.
You can check him out here.
It sucks how much air time I’ve been giving my inner critic these last few weeks because…
1. His heckling is so darn effective and has me hooking into the belief that I am not good enough… grrrr.
2. He is really really good at getting me to compare myself to others.
3. He can make me feel so useless with his constant put downs when I attempt to be creative.
4. By listening to him he gets louder and stronger and then I’m defeated to the point where I don’t attempt things.
5. All that chip spitting, coke dribbling, smelly ash crap mess he leaves lying around in my head makes me act really cranky because it’s very irritating and takes a lot of effort to clean up before I can experience clarity and move forward again and smell the scent of roses.
I am appreciative for – my determination today because…
1. I have control of the volume switch today and Mr Les Muppet’s lips are doing a lot of flapping but I can’t hear nuffin!
2. I am standing firm and solid on my own two feet, turning my back on his animated pleas to be heard as I flip him the bird.
3. My determination has me embracing and listening to more gentle story lines about myself.
4. My determination is powered by intention to make space for me to be kind to myself.
5. My determination had me write “I am good enough” on a hundred pieces of paper and then fold them into little paper airplanes that are now swooping and dive bombing Mr Les Muppet’s head as he ducks for cover. (Well… um… he is my imaginative creature who lives in my head so the only way to fight an imaginative creature is with the imagination that created him… makes sense… ahem… right?)
And remember… there are no judgements here just safe validation.
Happy Sunday Xx
Sarah @ Tomfo says
Hello lovely lady…
My suckable moment this week is how someone can be here one minute and gone the next, tragic circumstances happened in our family this week, you never think it will happen to people you know and love.
I appreciate that strength others have in faith to help them get through moment in time that will be with them forever and the strength to remember all the amazing things.
I’m loving your determination writing on planes too, I think that’s a great idea. Xx
Oh Sarah, my heart goes out to you. I’m sorry for your loss. Sadly, it never ceases to amaze or surprise me how damn quickly life can change and we are left spinning. Be kind to yourself during this time Sarah. Much love and hugs to you. xoxoxo
Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me says
My suckable moment was not being able to calm the farm at my kids when they hadn’t really done anything that bad, I just had PMS, was tired and over it. My great moment was being able to send myself to time out and not completely go bananas…
Have a great week ahead lovely x
We carry all kinds of guilt around with us as Mum’s don’t we? The great thing is that you are able to recognise your stress building. I never underestimate the power of one deep breath… saved a few kids heads from being bitten off in my time! 😉 Thanks for stopping by Em Xx
Majella Laws says
Well all I can say is that Mr Les Muppet is a “very unattractive man”! (channelling the Russian lady off Fast Forward). Evict him I say! Keep writing Sandra …. 🙂
Ha! I can see you taking off that lady Majella :-). The very unattractive man has been more silent! Thanks for stopping by 🙂 Xx