This post was inspired by the lovely Sammie at The Annoyed Thyroid. Go check out her blog. It’s awesome!
“You stay out of hospital this year Douglas!” These were our good friends parting words as she placed her hands on the back of Doug’s shoulders before she left for home at the very late hour of 9.30 pm New Year’s Eve.
We don’t usually do much on this milestone evening anymore. I take it as a sign of maturity and contentment rather than admit to being two boring old farts that now prefer to stay home with a cuppa and mind numbing tele rather than dancing around someone’s lounge room to ‘Bananarama’ at 4.30am sipping on half spilled alcoholic beverages. Not that I’ve ever done such a thing (bites lip and looks skyward avoiding eye contact).
Back to Doug and the parting words of our friend…
Doug didn’t last 48 hours from when those words were spoken. Off to emergency we trundled and the poor bugger then spent most of the week in Critical Care with an infected gall bladder. He’s home recovering now in his own bed looking mighty comfy and feeling a whole lot better but far from lots and lots better. No place like home for healing though is there.
I’ve done sweet fanciful all the last day or so. I just tend to keep going when I have to and then fall in a heap when I don’t have to keep going. It usually only lasts a couple of days but I find the tiredness and funk extremely irritating. Being kind to myself when the ‘switch off’ comes has never been one of my strong points.
While dithering around I have managed to do some blog reading and this particular post from Sammie at The Annoyed Thyroid New Year, No Word certainly got me thinking about goals and New Year resolutions.
The post begins…
“I feel like such a rebel because I have neither a word for the year, nor do I have a resolution. Not even one!
This is partly because I have commitment issues – the idea of choosing one word and one (or more resolutions) and having to stick to it/them for the whole year makes me feel quite anxious. And partly because I know myself so well, setting resolutions for the whole year is really just a glorified exercise in setting myself up to fail.”
This describes me to a ‘T’. Seriously, we could be sisters. Maybe half-sisters because Sammie likes baking and cooking and I bloody hate it!
So the mutual aversion we share to setting New Year commitments conjures up a very interesting question…
Does this then mean that we are destined to flounder through the year ahead with no purpose or direction driven by fear of failure?
Surprisingly (or not surprisingly) the answer is NO.
If you have come up with a word to guide your year, or made lists of your goals, or defined your desires for the year ahead then all power to you. I admire you and wish you all the best. But if you’re like me and the thought of committing to self-designed expectations for the next 12 months makes you break out in a cold sweat then maybe my comment left on Sammie’s post may resonate with you and dial back those heart palpitations; much like the effect Sammie’s post had on me when I read it!
My response to the post was so…
“Thank goodness I’m not alone! No new word and no New Year resolutions for me. Taking each day as it comes, living it with as much purpose and meaning as the circumstance of that day allows while noticing the splashes of joy like I always try to do! Think I just had a light bulb moment for some writing! Thanks for sharing Sammie. Love ya work ya ‘gorjus’ hunny bunny!”
I like Sammie! Can you tell? You should pop on over to The Annoyed Thyroid and read a post or three. Totally worth it.
So if you do happen to feel like you’re lacking focus or direction for the year maybe honour the old cliché of taking things a day at a time. It’s okay. We don’t always have a big picture vision. And if you do have a big picture vision that’s okay too. Just be kind to yourself on the hard days when things aren’t quite going to plan (says she who is way better at preaching than practising kindness to herself. Need to take a leaf out of my own book, lol).
Now I’m really curious about how you welcome in the New Year?
I’d love for you to share with me in the comments below.
Stay safe now,